For an excellent source on English composition, check out this classic book by William Strunk, Jr. on the Elements of Style. Contents include: Elementary Rules of Usage, Elementary Principles of Composition, Words & Expressions Commonly Misused, An Approach to Style with a List of Reminders: Place yourself in the background, Revise and rewrite, Avoid fancy words, Be clear, Do not inject opinion, Do not take shortcuts at the cost of clarity, … and much more. Details of The Elements of Style by William Strunk, Jr. partially available online at . Note: William Strunk, Jr. (1869–1946). The Elements of Style was first published in 1918.
Likewise, I’m sure you have had guys do something similar and finger you like he's operating a jackhammer, and, like for us, this tends to become too aggressive. So my best advice for the hand job would be to grab it as you would a not-quite-ripe banana (yes, another fruit metaphor), and stroke upward and downward with the vigor in which you like to be fingered. But when he’s about to come, this is when you can get your Shake Weight on and stroke that thing fast; he’ll shoot twice as hard if you increase your aggression after he gives you the “I’m going to come” line of courtesy.